Live Every Day



I had bad news yesterday.  A man that worked for my company, Cedar Creek Contractors, died Friday night.  On September 30th, 2017 he was killed in a tragic motorcycle accident.  His name was Tom and he was only thirty five years old.  His motorcycle hit a guardrail and he was thrown over the handlebars and into the oncoming traffic.  Several cars were unable to avoid hitting him. I wonder what his last thoughts were?  Was he scared, numb or unconscious?  Did he see his life flash before his eyes?  I pray that he felt no pain.

Coincidentally, it was exactly one year and six months from the day and approximate time Dean passed away.  It was a reminder to once again, live every day and moment as a gift from God.  I am still in disbelief and shock.  I just saw Tom Thursday night for a meeting with one of our clients, a large Property Management firm. He was going to help us with a substantial project we are supposed to start this coming Monday.  Hi role was integral to our job as an onsite manager, a carpenter and building repair specialist.  He and I talked about setting up a company together, flipping houses as he was a real estate agent and only worked for Cedar Creek Contractors as a second job.

I wonder why, at this stage of my life, I am seeing so much death.  Is it bad luck?  My age?  Or just a part of life.  I keep picturing that scene in the movie, War of the Worlds, where people are standing in the street one minute and then in the next "poof" they are gone.

I have to admit, my very first thought was, "Huh, lucky guy...he got to go home."  Some would say that its unhealthy for me to embrace death and I truly envied him in that first breath.  But with my second breath, a quiet voice said, You are blessed to be alive, live it every day and don't waste it."

Still its sad when we lose people we know and love.  A little piece of our lives disappears with them and only our memories are there to keep them alive.

I hope that Dean was there to welcome Tom home, even if they never knew each other in life.

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